There are physical characteristics that can go along with Down Syndrome. Wider set eyes, lower set ears, shorter nasal bone, single crease on the palm, etc….are all identifying marks of DS. What you don’t see are the internal characteristics. These include smaller canals in the ears, small nasal passages and sinuses, higher than average palate, etc. This increases the chances of respiratory sickness in people with DS. They are more likely to get pneumonia, colds, bronchitis- those sorts of illnesses.
Lily has had pneumonia twice (once due to aspirating her milk) but has been extremely healthy otherwise. In February of last year, she failed her hearing test, missing the low tones. They discovered she had fluid in her ears which without tubes, would continue to build up and cause speech delays and even deafness. So we joined the ENT surgery club. Lily’s surgeon also wanted to remove her adenoids because it is very easy for them to block the ear canals creating trouble.
After much research (even outpatient surgery is not without risk) we prepared ourselves to allow our little girl to be put under anesthesia and have the tubes placed and the adenoids removed. We had been through so many scares with her that we weren’t necessarily scared but it is a little known fact that I have some control issues (I know, shocker!) and I had a very hard time just turning her over (passed out from the goofy juice) to a complete stranger. I am sure my friends that have had to endure so much more intense surgeries with their children are rolling their eyes at me right now but for that 20 minutes, I couldn’t even sit down I was so ready to run back to her! Lily did very well and was back to her normal self by that evening only now she could hear even better!
As she gets older, we begin to see her change from a baby to a little girl and that includes seeing the characteristics of Down syndrome emerge more and more. After she turned 1, people outside our circle began to ask if she had DS- at first I was taken aback. I wanted people to see her for her not just the DS. However, as I gaze at my daughter, I realize that her appearance is a beautiful blend of the DS traits and us. I don’t think Lily is cute or pretty. I think she is stunningly beautiful. A truly unique masterpiece.